How it works here
Three steps, and the middle one is the part that makes the difference.
- Build a profile that says what you actually want. Single, couple, male couple, female couple — and what you are open to. Vagueness is the main reason people get nowhere.
- Connect before you chat. A connection request has to be accepted by both sides before either can send a message. An unwanted inbox is the thing that drives couples off most sites, and this removes it outright.
- Meet when you are both ready. Through a member-run event, a meet, or a drink somewhere public. Nobody is rushed.
Who is actually on it
Couples and singles, all over South Africa, with a real province and city on every profile. The mix is not the same everywhere — Gauteng and the Western Cape carry the most members, KwaZulu-Natal is growing fastest — and you can look before you join:
- Swingers in Gauteng — Johannesburg, Pretoria, Sandton, Centurion
- Swingers in the Western Cape — Cape Town, Stellenbosch, Somerset West
- Swingers in KwaZulu-Natal — Durban, Umhlanga, Ballito, Pietermaritzburg
- Eastern Cape, Free State, Mpumalanga, Limpopo, North West and Northern Cape
Free, and free in the way that matters
The first 5,000 members get Unlimited free, for life: unlimited messages, private and premium galleries, and hosting your own events and meets, on top of a complete profile, browsing and filtering every member, connections and chat rooms. There is no trial period and nothing expires.
After the first 5,000, new members join on a free account with 30 direct messages a day, and Unlimited is a once-off R200. One payment, nothing renews, no card details stored. See how it works for the detail.
Discretion, and how it is actually enforced
Nobody in the lifestyle wants their neighbour finding their profile. So: you pick a username rather than using your real name, your exact location is never shown — only the city and province you choose — and private galleries stay closed until you approve someone individually.
Members can also verify themselves by photographing themselves holding a handwritten note. A person reviews it, and the photo is deleted 30 days after the decision. No identity documents are collected or kept at any point.
New to it?
Nothing here assumes you have done this before, and most of the people you will meet were nervous once too. If the vocabulary is new, what swinging actually is and soft swap versus full swap take about five minutes each and need no account. If you are a couple weighing it up, the honest getting-started guide is the one to read before you write a profile.