Guides

The lifestyle, explained plainly.

Straight answers to the questions people actually search for — what the words mean, how couples get started, and how to do any of it without hurting the relationship you already have. Written for South Africa.

For Couples Group Sex: What Nobody Tells You Beforehand Four people is not a threesome with an extra person. Past three, the whole thing changes shape — and almost nobody is warned about that. 4 min read

For Couples How to Host a Swingers Party That People Come Back To The guest list decides the night before anyone arrives. Everything else is logistics — and the logistics are more boring, and more important, than you think. 5 min read

For Couples How to Have a Threesome: The Beginner’s Playbook The fantasy is easy. The logistics, the etiquette and the aftermath are where it goes right or wrong. Here is the version nobody tells you. 3 min read

For Couples How to Find a Unicorn: A Couple’s Guide (Done Properly) They are called unicorns because so few exist relative to demand. The reason is not scarcity of women — it is how most couples behave. 3 min read

For Couples From Drinks to Play: The Anatomy of a First Couple Swap Not the fantasy version. The actual sequence, including the awkward bits and the long stretch where nothing happens at all. 3 min read

For Couples Tantric Sex, Without the Mysticism Stripped of the incense and the marketing, it is a set of techniques about attention and pace. Most of it works whether or not you believe any of the philosophy. 3 min read